Black Twitter and Instagram had a lot say after Ciara inadvertently implied women should “level up” to meet the expectations of men if they want really want to find a husband. However, the backlash caused the singer to clarify her intentions.

Over the weekend, the happily married Mrs. Russell Wilson gave single women some unsolicited advice on how to get chose. She posted a clip of a sermon by Pastor John Gray in which he said too many are “walking in the spirit of girlfriend” and therefore can’t find a husband.

“You’re not a wife when I marry you, you’re a wife when I find you… A wife is the presence of your character.

“Too many women wanna be married but you’re walking in the spirit of ‘girlfriend.’ Walk like you’re already taken… Carry yourself like you’re already taken and I promise you, when you carry yourself like a wife, your husband will find you.”

“#LevelUp. Don’t Settle,” Ciara agreed and captioned the post, which led to an onslaught of social media backlash. Many disagreed that women should change themselves and act a certain way to attract a man. Ciara was also dragged for perpetuating the archaic notion that all women aspire to be a “wife.”

Believing her post had been misconstrued, Ciara responded to the backlash. She explained that she needed to learn how to love herself before someone could love her in the “perfect” way she wanted.

As you recall, Ciara had an extremely messy break-up with Future and the two share a three-year-old son together. She married Seattle Seahawks quarterback Russell Wilson in 2016 and they welcomed a daughter in 2017. Many have referred to Ciara and Wilson as #RelationshipGoals.

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